"You don't get the experience you want. You get the experience you need."

How does decentralization work?

Most of us have been conditioned to centralization in all aspects of our life. Our paychecks come from one single employer. We rely solely on grocery stores for our access to food. We outsource our physical and mental health to medical "experts" whom we are told know more about us than we do. And most of us never think twice about the fact that we do this.

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Why? Because in exchange for living like this we get to put in less effort. Imagine if instead of relying on grocery stores, you had to rely on farmers, or even worse, on yourself to hunt and process all of your animal protein. What if you weren't able to get a job, and instead, were forced to generate an income by becoming your own boss? And what if instead of getting a lifetime prescription of pills for your anxiety or depression, you were provided with the knowledge necessary to eliminate it altogether?

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In a nutshell, this is what decentralization is about. Taking responsibility for your situation in life, no matter how bad it is. Understanding that true healing is not about looking for others to come save you, but rather from looking inward and knowing you can save yourself.

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How will that impact our work together?

Fundamentally what this means is that I will speak candidly with you about your outcomes while maintaining a compassion-first mindset. I will never tell you what to do or how to think. But I won't lie to you, either. Say, for example, that you are struggling with depression and you would like to reduce your symptoms, but you are currently on SSRI's and uninterested in tapering off of them. I can still work with you and we can still achieve great results together, but as long as SSRI's are in the picture, your results will have a much lower ceiling than they would otherwise. And while I will never interfere with your decision-making process, I believe in providing informed consent. I will tell you this explicitly in the beginning so that you can make the most informed decision and so that six months down the road, when your symptoms have reduced 30-40%, if you are still unsatisfied with your results, we will be able to reference that conversation.​​